White Noise

Distraction has been proven as a successful strategy. Do you find that you are distracted easily and or frequently? I tend to get distracted more than I care to admit, or prefer. There are so many distractions, which can make it difficult to remain focused on personal objectives.
To avoid distraction, we often use white noise, which equates to adding in more distraction to a scenario - in essence, to drown out the unwelcome distraction. Confusing right?!  A simple example might be: Turning up the TV to drown out your neighbor’s music and or the sound of a TV in another room. In effect, you add in noise to trump out the noise that you do not want to hear. Have you ever done that? 
Unfortunately, utilizing white noise just does not work for me! =(

When I find myself excessively distracted by uninvited elements and or people (I’m an introvert, read about that here), I typically feel inundated with way too much information . Adding additional white noise to the scenario seems to intensify the challenge, which in turn often leads to feeling overwhelmed and then… the inevitable end result: The state of irritation – LOL!

Life experience and awareness of who I am as an individual has taught me the value of knowing when to take a step back from unnecessary ”noise”. I use these frequent intervals to focus on myself, to examine my strengths, to analyze my weaknesses, and to sharpen my objectives.

Isn’t a vacation the BEST opportunity to press the “R E S E T” button?!?! While on holiday this time around I was able to re-direct my focus, shift away from the noise, and focus on the things that are truly important to me. I started an excellent book and seized opportunities to enjoy all of the sights and sounds around me. 
This white dress came into play for dinner plans. It was perfect for the extreme heat not only because it is white, but also 100% cotton = A double win!!!
I simply heart all white ensembles, see examples here, here, and here.  
However white can be paired with other colors just as easily. Think lilac, yellow, peach or blue =)

Over to you, how do you handle distractions? What is your favorite way to style white?

Until next time Style Lovers!

Sunnies: Nordstrom| Earrings & Statement Necklace: Ross Dress for Less| Dress: Also worn here| Strappy Sandals:Tildon| Clutch: Vintage

crème de la crème

When I was thinking of what to title today’s post, "crème de la crème" instantly popped into my head. Let me tell you why:

Most fashionistas would agree that there is nothing quite like an all-white ensemble (Nope, not even all black look). Wearing all white looks and feels fresh, crisp, yes clean.  It’s an easy and frequent  go-to during the summer months. Yet, we need not forget about it’s counterpart: Off-White!  An all off-white ensemble can pack a fashionable bang too!  Not to mention, there’s an added bonus: Most people feel completely comfortable wearing off-white outside of warm weather months, i.e. “Winter White”.

While going through my wardrobe and attempting to eliminate pieces that I no longer need (I do this every 2-3 months, I try to follow the 1 in/1 out rule) I realized that I don’t  have many off-white pieces anymore. I know that I used to, but over time, they’ve either been eliminated for of the following reasons: 1) Tossed out due to a stain (like my MK jeans worn here), 2) given away, or 3) donated to charity. The timing was perfect when I scored a lace remnant of fabric on mark down, I decided right on the spot to have it made into a skirt similar to a style that I saw on Pinterest . Sidebar: Pinterest is my #1 Fashion Inspiration source! Follow me here and let’s enjoy being inspired
together!

Oftentimes when lace some to mind we automatically assume it has to be for a dressier occasion. That’s not necessarily true, I pulled this look off by day (casual) and by night (dressy).

Thanks for tuning in today Style Lovers, until next time!
Moi’

Casual Take

Sunnies: TJMAXX| Earrings: Vintage| Top: aerie| Clutch: Vintage, thrifted| Skirt: Custom| Espadrille lace ups: Soludos

Dressy Take

Sunnies: Steve Madden| Earrings: Nordstrom| Top: aerie| Clutch: Vintage, thrifted| Skirt: Custom |Shoes: Call It Spring (also worn here)

Mix & Match: Take 3

Finally Loves, today’s post boasts the final installment, yes Take 3, of my second wardrobe capsule (click here to see my very first go at creating one: The Pastel Wardrobe Capsule!

When I tell you that life is full of the unexpected- I promise I do not exaggerate in the least! I actually intended to blog this look last Friday (6/26), you know, like in short succession to my previous post, i.e., Take 2 here…
Y E T here it is, late PM on July 2^nd and I’m finally getting this post published!  Is late truly better than never-?! LOL!

I‘ve previously written about my intrigue with the Minimal clothing approach; However at this juncture in my life, I cannot see making it a lifestyle change. I NEED variety at my fingertips, at all times. Nonetheless, I like to dabble in the fun of Minimalism, utilizing the capsule wardrobe concept. A capsule wardrobe allows me to temporarily enjoy the principle behind Minimalism without making a long term commitment.  Not familiar with a wardrobe capsule? Well it's said to be ‘a set of clothing, footwear and or accessories that satisfy style needs in one or more areas of your life.’

The theme of this wardrobe capsule was dual-fold: Black& White + Mixed Prints. 3 basic pieces = 3 different looks. Each suitable for my lifestyle: Work & Play. I’m pleased with the outcome, and freely admit that all three fits will be in rotation this Summer!

Now down to the nitty gritty: Which look is your favorite, and why?!

Check out the details for ---> Take 1 and or Take 2 Babes!

Until next time!
XO

Furgora: Kangol |Sunnies: A.J. Morgan |Earrings: Steve Madden |Bracelet: Zara |Stripe vest & Skirt: Custom (worn here, here, and here) 
Fringe bag: Carlos Santana (worn here) |Calf skin loafers: Sam Edelman

Mix & Match: Take 2

Does this top look perhaps vaguely familiar? It should, I wore it in Monday’s post :) (see here). That’s right, you may have guessed - Welcome to my second run at creating a capsule wardrobe!!

As mentioned here, a wardrobe capsule is: ‘a set of clothing, footwear and or accessories that satisfy style needs in one or more areas of your life.’ (The Pastel Wardrobe Capsule here)

For my very first run at creating a capsule, I chose pastel colors as the theme. This time I’m playing with a classic duo for which I have a particular fondness: Black + White

I won’t bore you unnecessarily with the reasons why I simply adore black + white. Instead, I’ll chat it up about the joy and ease of pattern mixing with this duo. You see, I've grown to love clashing prints (see here, here, here)!

Yet, I have heard from friends that they feel somewhat awkward randomly mixing up prints in a look. Do you feel the same way? Perhaps you like the idea, but aren’t quite sure where to start?

Never fear, Joi is here - L O L!!! Seriously, one of the most simple ways that I’ve found to be effective when it comes to flirting with the pattern mixing game: Start off with patterns that contain only two colors, i.e. black + white. Think stripes, florals, checks, polka dots, and so on.

Using this method, prints seem to match up instantaneously. To start, go with two clashers. As your comfort level increases, take it up a notch with three or even four prints -at one time! When you do, please tag me on social media: IG,Tumblr,Twitter @InMyJoi!

Stay tuned Style Lovers, Take 3 of Mix & Match is on the way,

XO

Sunnies: Sunscape| Stripe top: Custom| Skirt: Cynthia Rowley| Shoes: Calvin Klein| Clutch: Forever 21

Mix & Match

Black + white delivers winning combinations, add a pattern mix to the scenario and you’ve reached fashion nirvana.

My affection for black and white duos is clearly not new to the blog, see other PDAs here, here, and here.

In my mind it is fresh and crisp; cohesively consistent. If you’re new to the pattern mix game, it’s a safe way to test out the waters gradually.

For this mix up, I went with bold vertical stripes and soft window pane checks. It’s totally doable for the office, after work meet-ups, and weekend nights.

Sunnies: Allen Schwartz| Stripe top: Custom| Pants: NYDJ| Shoes: Enzo Angiolini| Clutch: Kate Spade

Decidedly Different

pop•u•lar•i•ty - päpyəˈlerədē/ -noun

The state or condition of being liked, admired, or supported by many people.

From adolescence on, there seems to be a desire, perhaps even a need, to be liked and accepted by everyone. For some, the realization that they are not liked and or accepted leads to depression and desperation. In this age of social media fascination, receiving 'likes' from strangers or 'friends', adoring thumbs up, and or a certain amount of followers, has introduced a new intensity for the desire to obtain popularity. It seems to serve as an artificial or virtual ego booster, particularly for those who may not experience the same level of adoration as they may on social media, in their real, physical lives. Yes, in the world of social media, being liked equates to value, marketability, and oftentimes revenue.

Although I have experienced varying phases of physical popularity, completely unsolicited by the way (read more here), I personally believe that there is immense value in this: Realize and accept the fact that not everyone will like the same people or the same things. Everyone will not like ME. Simple, cut, dry. It is not bad thing, it simply is. 

I personally feel a sense of satisfaction in knowing that there are things about me and the way that I think that are vastly different from the people around me. My grandma once told me, ‘You’re an old soul’. She meant that my manner of thinking was beyond my age. I believe that she was right. To be honest, it really makes very little difference to me whether people like me or not. I don’t have a desire to be popular, I desire to be MYSELF. I refuse to allow the vacillating sweep of social media, the virtual world, to influence my value of self.(Read the reason why I started blogging here)

I will not follow the crowd. I will not join superficial bandwagons. I will not give insincere praise. I will not do things that I do not want to do - to gain acceptance, marketability, or branding. 
I am, decidedly different.

Sunnies: Betsey Johnson| Sequin top: ASTR (worn here)| Dress: Vintage| Booties: Moda (worn here)

An Appreciative Introvert

Hey Style Lovers! I feel like I’ve been missing in action. Well, the only explanation I can give is: Life has been happening, over and over, and over again. Despite a busy life schedule, I feel GOOD! As a matter-of-fact, during my down time I came across an article that has prompted me to open up and share something personal about myself: "I am an introvert."

Many sources say that most personalities can be categorized as extroverted or introverted. An extrovert according to Merriman-Webster is ‘a friendly person who likes being with and talking to other people; i.e. an outgoing person’. In contrast, “introverts are drained by social encounters and energized by solitary, often creative pursuits. Their disposition is frequently misconstrued… many introverts socialize easily; they just strongly prefer not to.” 
-Psychology Today

As far back as I can remember, I have always felt a sense of dread when it came to attending social functions. From toddler age sleepovers, to high school parties, I never gained the same level of satisfaction or fulfillment from engaging socially as others seemed to around me- if any fufillment at all. Not to say that I didn’t or that I don’t enjoy socializing at times.  After all, this blog produces regular evidence that I do love to dress up-LOL! But seriously, I have observed that frequent social interactions do not necessarily add value to my life. Often they leave me feeling, well, in a word: tired. Confession: There are times when the only highlight in attending a social function for me is simply getting dressed! 

Some introverts would say that they wish that they were extroverts, and could somehow break free from their ‘shell’. Personally, I do not feel that way. I’m not in a shell, I don't feel socially awkward, nor do I have a mild personality. It is a part of who I am to limit my social interactions! Being able to take a step back and to think introspectively makes me the woman that I am- I am very appreciative for that.  The world would be remiss if every single individual possessed the exact same traits. I relish in the freedom of being an introvert! I don’t have a problem with saying “No”, I can stand alone.  If you’re an introvert like me, bask in the strength that you have from within. Embrace your differences! And if you happen to be an extrovert - love an introvert ;) I'm so happy that one loves me !

Until next time,
X

Sunnies: Jessica Simpson | Statement Necklace: H&M | Jacket: Nordstrom | Dress: Suzi Chin for Maggie Boutique | Oxfords: Tildon

Turquoise Dewdrop

Happy Fri-yay Loves!!!
Today's post is short & sweet because it's Friday and who has time to read a long blog post?! LOL! 
Let the weekend games commence!

Turquoise drenched silk is easily paired with an abstract skirt and a trim of suede.

During the Spring season, the weather can be somewhat unpredictable. 

Long sleeves and suede shoes are appropriate for daytime breezes and nighttime chills.

I've mentioned before that silk permeates my wardrobe. I love the fiber because it's not as breathable as others, which in my opinion gives it a warming factor. I  S T A Y cold! Silk helps me to stay warm when I don't want to wear layers.

What are your tricks for staying warm without adding layers?

Until next time, have a GREAT weekend!
X

Sunnies: Betsey Johnson| Silk shirt: Vintage|Skirt: Burlington Coat Factory| Suede pumps: Audrey Brooke via DSW| Tote: Coach

Inspired by IRIS

Iris who? I R I S Apfel

My girl Sheena over at IAmSheGlobal invited me to a private screening of the Iris Apfel documentary a couple of weeks ago. You've no doubt seen Iris on the net, in magazines, and probably on my favorite inspiration market, Pinterest.

This documentary gives private glimpses inside the thought processes of the rare bird. Although Iris refers to herself as not pretty, I think her beauty radiates from the inside outward. She's smart, witty, and stylish- who could ask for more?! Age and beauty do not always come hand in hand, but Iris definitely has both.

I stared in awe as I tried to take in her fantastic vintage collections and immense storage areas. Each piece has become a memory in her book of travels and life experiences.

At one point the film shows her and her husband Max (who is 100 yrs old BTW) shopping for new vintage threads, I instantly felt the need to jump through the screen and snag a pinstripe Oscar de la Renta navy and white coat. My goodness!!! What a wealth of rare treasures she has!

Of Iris' philosophies 'more is more', and 'pattern mixing is always the way to go' - these two resonate with me the most. In Iris-like fashion, for today's look I piled on the necklaces, mixed up prints in this custom made number, and topped it all off with vintage goodness.

Over to you, please do share: who are your inspiration muses?

Until next time,
XO

Sunnies: Betsey Johnson

Necklaces: Assorted, including a recent purchase from Rocksbox. 

(Try one month free, use code: "InMyJoiXoXo" @ checkout)

Dress: Custom made (Designed by me, made by a friend)

Straw handbag: Vintage

Jeweled shoes: Kelley & Katie

TRUTHFUL Thursdays: Blue Skies

Have you ever had such a busy work week that it leaves you feeling overwhelmed? I’m sure you have! That has been my feeling this week as each day I am thrown into multiple projects, all with a deadline of the day before yesterday. During times like this, I try to remember that there are 'blue skies'.

What do I mean? Well, for a fact life is happening outside of this storm (the one I'm in feels like a tornado). I think of sunshine, warm breezes, birds chirping, and blue skies. I look back on days like the one pictured in today’s post.

To handle periods that carry a high workflow, I organize my thoughts, and outstanding tasks.  I track each completed task because often questions arise. I set multiple reminders and follow-up indicators. I document E V E R Y T H I N G. And that’s not all….  I just might be an organizational neurotic, but it has served me well in my field. Throughout the day I constantly refer to various to-do lists and track how far I am to completion. Yes, completion. There is no better feeling than a job well done.

Please share, what are your tips for handling stormy seasons at the office? 

Until next time!

X

Aviators: Tahari | Top: Lord & Taylor | Dress: Cynthia Rowley | Silver oxfords: Tildon (a constant on the blog, see here, here, and here) | Fringed bag: Carlos Santana (worn here)