Showing posts with label curves. Show all posts
Showing posts with label curves. Show all posts

Wednesday, June 18, 2014

What "CURVY" Means to Us


In recent years, there has been much discussion surrounding the use of the word “CURVY”, especially when it comes to plus size women. I have read numerous articles on the controversial subject, some degrading and offensive, and others amusing and somewhat intriguing.  

For instance, recently I came across an article in my hometown newspaper, The Detroit Free Press. It is titled: “Does 'curvy' label do large women a favor?” The author outlines some of the advancements that have been made in the fashion industry to include plus size women. She says: “It would be tempting to say we, as a society, have evolved. It would be tempting to say we’re no longer bound by prejudices about body size. It would be tempting to say we’re finally seeing and believing that women with large bodies are worthy of our respect.” I found her sentiments intriguing. In my opinion, the society that I live in is still very much bound by prejudices toward body size. The author goes on to say: “Society still loathes large women, it just doesn’t call women large any more. These days, large women are “curvy.” Even if they have no definable waist or hips, the very definition of curvy.”




Aha! Herein lies the basis of today’s post: 
What is the definition of “CURVY”? Can it be subjective or objective? 




I asked fellow #psbloggers from one end of the globe to the other to weigh in with me on the following questions:

How do you define the word curvy?
In the past, when I thought of a curvy woman, I pictured someone who had a smaller, defined waist, and shapely hips. I never believed that being curvy had anything to do with the size of a woman. For example: a woman that wears a size 4 can have curves, just as a woman who wears a size 14 can have curves. A woman who wears a size 6 might not have curves, just as a woman who wears a size 16 might not be the representation of curvy.

Do you consider yourself to be curvy?
Why yes, I certainly do!

Has your perception of the word curvy changed since joining the online plus size community?
My perception of the use of the word curvy has changed. I’ve come to realize that curves take on all forms, and shapes. It is not up to me to tell another woman whether she is or is not curvy. If a woman chooses to describe her body as curvy, it is not my taste to challenge the validity of what she asserts. At the end of the day, every woman is beautiful in a unique way.

How do you feel about the public’s perception of the word curvy, and its use in the plus size community?
I do not feel that being plus size is automatically synonymous with having curves, or being curvy. However, I don’t believe that the public should attack plus size women for using the word curvy to describe their bodies. At the heart of it all, most plus size women do not want their bodies to be described in terms that have a history of being offensive, degrading, and hateful. The descriptive word "CURVY" has a different connotation, one that generally engenders positive thoughts. The word CURVY does and will always have a place among plus size women!

The article that I referenced earlier asserts: “What makes most sense is to stop putting women into categories.” Well, that would be nice, but in my opinion, categories do serve a purpose. For instance, when searching for fashion inspiration on Pinterest/Instagram, without categories, how would we specify the images that we’d like to see? Just a thought…

Check out what “CURVY” means to my fellow #psbloggers:

Ashley @ www.fabellis.com
Delilah @ www.pumpsandstudz.blogspot.com
JoJo @ www.icurvyworld.com
Lauren @ www.thecurvyperfectionist.com
Nina @ www.curvymod.blogspot.com
Olivia @ www.curvesbecomeher.wordpress.com


Until next time lovelies!
Xx

Wednesday, June 11, 2014

30PlusStyle: The Swimsuit Edition

I cannot believe that this moment has finally arrived, after months of planning! The #30PlusStyle Collaboration has returned, and this go round we aim to initiate a tidal wave! Let me welcome you to: "The Swimsuit Edition"!!!


First: Today's post features the very first #30PlusStyle Guest Blogger: Marie Denee from TheCurvyFashionista.com ! 
Welcome aboard Marie Denee!!!

This post takes on special meaning for me personally. I hope to inspire women who may feel like I did for many years about my non-flawless body: inadequate and un-beautiful. For the majority of my adult life, I wore a very basic black one piece swimsuit, along with a pair of black swimming trunks designated for men.  It did not occur to me that there could possibly be a different swimsuit, one vibrant in color, not to mention a two piece, that could actually flatter and or define my pear-shaped body. Sadly I was accustomed to hiding inside that black one piece swimsuit and my pair of men's swimming trunks. I sometimes wished that I could disappear whenever I had to make an appearance at an ocean, hot spring, or swimming pool. 

When I relocated to the west coast, I felt like a woman basking in resilience.  My feelings of inadequacy seemed  to be replaced with feelings of confidence and I felt less concerned about how people viewed me. I even began to develop a love for being near water. It is relaxing, even joyous, to lay out on a beach or poolside, soaking up the sun's rays.

True story: While I was on location taking pictures for this post, there was a real deal, LIVE, swimsuit photo shoot taking place with professional swimsuit models! The young women were quite small in size. May I even say, tiny? I began to feel my old negative feelings resurging: shame and inadequacy. Just who did I think I was? Why was I taking pictures? What will people think of me for wearing this swimsuit? Almost just in time, the most amazing thing occurred: One of the models called out to me, and she said: "I just have to say, you look amazing." Another then said: "I just love your suit, where is it from?" As a result of those kind words, my insecurities melted away. I remembered that we are indeed, all beautiful. Yes, women are beautiful in every shape and size. And even more remarkably, I realized the power that women have to inspire, and encourage another. 



For today's post I decided to provide you with my review of the ever popular Forever 21+ 'Bombshell Bikini', available online and in stores. 

Notice that I am wearing the swimsuit in four different ways (alternating a floral print and a solid print) to demonstrate the adaptability that is possible. Do you feel uncomfortable wearing a bikini or a #fatkini? Try wearing a sheer cover-up or even a loose fitting crop top as I demonstrated above. 

In my opinion, the halter bikini top can leave something to be desired for those of us who are beyond a B/C-cup. However, it is versatile, and can also be worn as a tube style (try tying the halter portion underneath your bosom creating a sort of underwire effect for added support). The best part about the 
Forever 21+ 'Bombshell Bikini'? It costs less than $30.00 USD!

I hope that you've enjoyed this post, and that you leave feeling inspired and beautiful ;) 
Please do share, what is your swimsuit of choice?
Xx

P.S. 
--> Don't forget to check out all the #30PlusStyle beauties and our Special Guest Blogger:

www.thecurvyfashionista.com
www.mode-plus.com
www.pumpsandstudz.blogspot.com
www.thejenesaisquoi.blogspot.com
www.grownandcurvywoman.com
www.prettypluspep.blogspot.com

Wednesday, May 7, 2014

30PlusStyle: Perfect in Pastels

The #30PlusStyle collaboration returns TODAY, and everyone is decked in Pastels! 




I must admit, I had quite a bit of difficulty deciding what to wear for this post! When I felt fed up, I started shopping around, but I couldn't find anything that felt like "me". 

As in times past, I headed back to my closet for a final look. And wouldn't you know- I spotted this vintage number that I bought a couple of years ago, but have never worn! I absolutely adore the ruching and button detail on the bodice. 

Nothing designed today is truly "new" IMO, as this maxi dress gives evidence of pastels and ruching of times long past. Once again my mission was accomplished utilizing a vintage piece! Am I officially vintage obsessed or a vintage lover?!

Oh, you may have noticed that I have been MIA for a few days. I had several major dental issues arise, and as a result I was out of commission. Fortunately, I mustered up the courage needed to get them addressed, and now I am on the road to recovery. =) 

A lesson learned from an older gal to the younger ones: Don't let fear keep you away from the Dentist!






Fedora/straw hat: Ralph Lauren
Dress: Vintage
Beaded handbag: Vintage
Rose gold pumps: Flounce, Nordstrom's

Check out all of the #30PlusStyle beauties, "Perfect in Pastels":


Sunday, April 6, 2014

LEB Workshop Assignment 5: Stomach/Waist

Hey there!
I’m getting back on track with the LEB (Love Every Body) Workshop :) This month's (April) assignment #5 is up: Stomach/Waist (previous assignment also posted here). How do I feel about my stomach/waist?
(Original photos posted here)

Well in short, we have an on and off again relationship *o* Sometimes I love it, and other times not so much. My stomach is one of the smallest measurements on my body. I like my waist to hip ratio. I have excess skin (IMO) around my stomach from weight fluctuations. Depending on the fit of my clothing, I can look quite pregnant or like I have an extremely flat tummy. My stomach has stretch marks. I have a pooch. It only seems to go away when I am on my best behavior, which apparently, is not often enough. LOL! Can you tell that I am full of laughs today?! Seriously though, my stomach is not drastically different than it was in years past. I’ve had a pooch all of my adult life. 
Overall I appreciate my tummy. I’m thankful that I don't go to bed without enough food to eat, that I don't have a painful disease (cancer comes to mind) tearing away at my insides, and that my tummy can kinda be molded into whatever I want it to be. I’ve never had an operation on it, and it bears no scars or permanent marks with the exception of a small birthmark. I have much to be grateful for.

How do you feel about your tummy?

Check out my blogmates linkups here.
Xx

Monday, March 10, 2014

Where Yellow Meets The Green: A Boxy Top & Tube Skirt




It's Monday already?! I type this in disbelief! Why, oh why does the weekend go by so quickly? Nonetheless, I hope you had a FAB weekend! I truly enjoyed my weekend; I got to spend time with friends that I haven't seen in quite some time. 
On to today's post! I paired a boxy sleeveless brocade top with one of my staple tube skirts (see other examples here and here).

In the past I steered clear from boxy (shapeless) tops. I always felt that they added unnecessary bulk to my waistline/mid-section. I am trying to turn over a new leaf...I'll let you know how that works out! LOL!
Here's my first attempt to style a top that does not contour my waist.


 Can you see the conviction in my facial expression?! I'm working on my 'poker face', but I haven't mastered it as of yet. To be honest, I'm not sure that I am sold on the boxy top look...Fortunately I nabbed this one for an extreme markdown at Nordstrom for less than $5.00. If it doesn't work out long term, I will donate it.



Top: Tildon
Statement Necklace: JCPenny
Tube Skirt: Vince Camuto (similiar here and here)
Shoes: BCBG
Clutch: Vintage, thrifted


Wednesday, February 26, 2014

LEB Workshop Assignment 1: A Letter to My Body

As previously mentioned here, I joined a fantastic body positivity workshop hosted by Leah over at JustMeLeah.co.uk. I missed the first two segments because I found out about it after it had already begun. I decided to make up the prior segments because I think they are essential to the process.

I thought that it would be fairly simple to write this piece, but actually it wasn’t. It was emotional. Each time I gave it serious and deep thought, and then began to write, I would feel sadness. I thought to myself, ‘Where is this sadness coming from?’ I think I know the answer. It was the realization of how I truly feel.  I feel that when I was growing up, I was ill-equipped to appreciate and understand my personal self-worth. I decided to write a letter to my body in the past, from the future.


Dear body,

I write this letter to you from the future.  Whenever you need to, pull me out, and read me. Always believe that you are beautiful, that you have value, and that you are a gift.
You will be viewed as physically unattractive by some people because you don’t fall into a certain weight range, because your hips are wider, because your legs are bigger, and even because you are covered in brown skin. 

Despite how you are viewed by others, you will learn to value yourself. Everything about you is unique, beautiful, and wonderfully designed. You will discover that everyone was not created to be the exact same size, to look the exact same way, or to have the exact same body shape. Endeavor to embrace the things about you that are different. From the top of your head to the bottom of your feet, each facet of you is a gift. Treasure the gift that is uniquely you. 

Let me tell you about you. You have full, thick, curly and wavy hair. Your skin is a beautiful hue of brown, and in the summer seasons it develops a glow. You have five fingers and five toes. You are shaped similar to a dewdrop, wider on the bottom than you are on the top. You have relatively good health as a child, and during your adult years. Your heart has no irregularities, and all of your organs work harmoniously together. You enjoy 20/20 vision, relatively good hearing, and almost perfect taste buds.  You bruise easily, but your bruises heal and eventually fade. Your arms and legs work just fine, and for 30+ years you will not suffer from any disabilities. 

Body, recognize that you are but a shell, or a vessel for the true person that resides within. Genuine beauty comes from that source, and radiates outwardly. Whenever you feel shunned, degraded, and even rejected by others because of your appearance, remind yourself: 
You are beautiful, you have value, and you are a gift.

Love,
Me 


This was a clarifying exercise for me, and I am happy that I decided to complete it. 
Check out Leah's post and the other lovlies that participated here.


Tuesday, February 4, 2014

Drenched in Tangerine

 This color reminds me of the bright colored outer peel of a tangerine. I love bright colors, as you can see throughout this blog. There's something about them that feels so me. I've worn this skirt before, but the silk blouse is a recent addition from the thrift shop. It has a boxy shape, and is a bit large on me, so I modified it with a front tie-up. 
 Usually I wear a pair of orange shoes with this skirt, but this time I tried it with nude pumps. 

 Although I work in a very conservative environment,  I wore this look to the office. 
Do you wear bold colors to the office?

Silk blouse: Talbots, thrifted
Statement necklace: Saks Off Fifth
Tube skirt: Vince Camuto
Nude shoes: Jessica Simpson

Sunday, February 2, 2014

LEB Workshop Assignment 3: Arms, Hands, and Shoulders

So a couple of weeks ago, while perusing BeauCoo, I came across a great workshop hosted by Leah over at JustMeLeah.co.uk.
The main idea of this workshop is to learn to look at our bodies in a new way, banishing negative ideas from our minds and choosing to focus on the great things about ourselves. 

I have long believed that too much time and energy is spent hating the gift that is our body. I began practicing what I like to think of as 'body love' about 12 years ago. I started by examining my body in it's entirety, frequently. I invested in great bath and body products, and regularly gave myself full body salt and sugar scrubs. I stopped wincing when I looked at myself naked in the mirror, and began smiling. Yes, despite stretch marks, bruises, cellulite, spider veins, and jiggles ;) - I realized that this is the only body that I have. There in began the journey of loving the skin that I am in. Like any journey, there have been ups and downs.

This workshop is sectioned off into 9 separate assignments. The first Sunday of each month a different body part is featured. Unfortunately I missed assignments one and two, which were featured December 1st and January 5th. However, I plan to run catch up posts ;)

The focal points for today's assignment is: arms, hands, and shoulders. It's quite fitting too, because as of late, my arms are probably my least favorite body part! LOL! However, assignment #3 encourages me to shift my focus. What do I love about my arms? What do they enable me to do? What about my shoulders and my hands? 
After some reflection, I came up with this list of random thoughts:

ARMS



  • My arms enable me to embrace those I love.
  • I like the skin color of my arms.
  • I have one small scar on my right arm, and two on my left. Both were caused by a hot curling iron.
  • I enjoy a good stretch.
  • I like the fine hair on my forearms, and would never consider removing it.
  • I am grateful for my arms.




HANDS
  • I used to dislike my hands, I'm not sure why.
  • I like the shape of my nails, and the way that they grow.
  • I like to wear blue nail polish, every chance I get.
  • I've had healthy nails my entire life, until recently. I slammed my thumb into a car door, and now the nail is in the process of coming off. Also, the nerves in my thumb are still healing so I experience pain when using it extensively.
  • I have fine hair just under my knuckles. I like it. I like hair on my body! 
  • My fingers are relatively small.
  • My hands enable me to enjoy life through touch. 
  • With my hands, I can: do my hair, my make-up (when I wear it), brush my teeth, wash up, get dressed, cook, clean, drive, clap, type, swipe, rub Patch (my kitty), touch my husband's face, and the list could go on forever! 
  • I am grateful that I have hands!










SHOULDERS


  • I've always loved the shape of my shoulders, and for that reason it's hard for me to stay out of tube tops in the summer ;)
  • Sometimes I like a shoulder massage.
  • I like to roll my shoulders back.
  • I like the way fabric hangs off my shoulders.
  • I am grateful for my shoulders!








Thinking about this assignment helped me to remember that I am grateful that I have arms, hands and shoulders. Some people don't, and they would give anything to have them. Yes, my hands, arms, and shoulders are part of me, and I love them.

XO

Friday, January 24, 2014

Pinterest Inspired: Polka Dots in the Nude


Today's outfit was inspired by a picture that I found on Pinterest. I contacted the owner of the photo, but have not received a response as of yet regarding permission to post that image on this site. Nonetheless, this outfit is one example of why I have fallen captive to the inspiration board that is Pinterest. Are you on Pinterest? Please join me at: InMyJoi and let's be inspired together!
I wore this evening style dress over two years ago to a wedding. Since then, it has been buried at the back of my closet with a collection of forgotten evening dresses. When I saw this exact same dress (different color, same brand) worn casually on Pinterest, I was inspired to recreate a way to wear it to the office. I knew I wanted to work with pieces that I already had. This is what I came up with.


What do you think? I was very pleased with how it turned out! I think I like it better worn this way, than after 5-ish with pearls =) One of my style goals for this year is to recreate ways to wear everything that is in my wardrobe. For items that I do not wear often, I will examine why, and then discover ways that they can be worn practically. I'm hoping that the 'new ways' discovered outdo the 'old ways'!

P.S. I am currently battling a cold (as discussed on IG) and I've been wearing sunnies lately to hide my red, watery eyes :(

Have a great weekend & thanks for stopping by!

Sunnies: Todd's
Jewelry: Vintage, thrifted
Blouse: Ralph Lauren, thrifted (also seen here)
Dress: Just Taylor
Shoes: Nine West (also seen here)
Handbag: Coach

Wednesday, January 22, 2014

Minty Candy Cane: Improvised Peplum & Skinny Ankle Pants

 Today's outfit post reminds me of a red and white candy cane. Each piece has been in my wardrobe for a while, yet I have never worn them all together. Funny story about this peplum top: It's actually a tube top, and previously had a large red bow on it. I bought it because I liked the pattern, it was peplum, and as an added bonus: it was on final clearance at TJMaxx for $5.00. Yet, I wasn't sure how I wanted to wear it, and I really disliked the bow. So it sat in my dresser drawer for 2 years or more...One day while perusing my closet for new combination ideas, I happened to notice that the sweater and the peplum top went together very well. It looks very similar to a twinset. I cut off the bow, and wa-la! 
 The mint pants seemed like a natural match. Friends of this blog know that 9 times out of 10, I stick with Not Your Daughter's Jeans as my go to pants. The fit is just wonderful...Ah- I digress! Any who, there are times when I deviate, and this is one example. I like the fit of these pants, but I must say, in my opinion they don't really do anything for me. Don't get me wrong, I like the color, the length, and fit overall. They just seem to lack the 'umph' that I look for in a pair of pants.



Sweater: Ellen Tracy
Peplum: Monteau
Pants: Vince Camuto
Handbag: Dooney & Bourke
Mary Jane's: Nine West (also seen here and here)

Thanks for stopping by, I hope you have a wonderful day!

Monday, January 20, 2014

Purple Reigns

Today's post is short and sweet. One of the benefits of being married to a golfer is the beautiful views enjoyed from golf resorts; Perfect photo opportunities! I wore these jeans not too long ago,  but I wanted to wear them again. 
Have you ever had a hankering to wear something that you just wore not too long ago?

Faux fur: Victoria's Secret (Came attached to a sweater)
Silk blouse: Ralph Lauren (also seen here)
Skinny Jeans: NYDJ (also seen here)
Stilettos: Nine West
Rhinestone evening bag: Vintage, thrifted