Friday, March 4, 2016

Blackballed

Polka dots were my very first patterned love, long before I discovered the enchanting appeal from my forever love, STRIPES. I can remember crushing on the dotted pattern as far back as junior high school. Today’s look features a classic a-line LBD with a dotted bodice and sheer polka dot sleeves.
This connect the dots dream is versatile, I’ve worn it mega dressy as well as entirely casual. Actually it’s taken me way too long to blog it…as I purchased it last Summer during my “Dresses Are a “Necessity” multi-state buyout, LOL!  This dress made the cut as it is easily layered and accessorized. Sometimes I add a statement piece to it, but on this particular day applying the ‘more is more’ philosophy wasn’t cohesive with my mood, so I took a minimal approach.
Oftentimes choosing to take a different approach than what is expected triggers a form of backlash, i.e. the urban American term blackballed. Have you ever made a decision to go a different route from what your peers anticipated? What type of reaction did you receive? Positive or negative?
True to my personality type, I often decide to travel routes that others least expect.  For instance, there appears to be particular choices that individuals take when it comes to style blogging, especially to obtain the ever present goal of S U C C E S S.  When I first started blogging my style, naturally I followed the pattern laid by some of the veterans in the industry. However, it didn’t take me long to realize that going the 'normal' route just wasn’t going to work for me as an individual. Too many things to enumerate conflicted with my personality and status as an introvert. As I’ve mentioned before (see here) competition in the blogsphere can be fierce and cutthroat. I had to make a choice, to either continue on blogging the way I was- although miserably, or- to do it MY WAY. MY WAY won, as it often does! I refuse to betray my authentic self. I spoke with a friend who blogs in a different arena, and she expressed some of the same sentiments that I had felt several times over. 
 
The bottom line? There are consequences for every choice that you make, and some can be noticeably negative; Especially if the path you choose leads to more resistance than usual. However, being blackballed really does have its advantages, namely- FREEDOM. Freedom to dance to your own beat, to create your own path as you go, and to focus on expressing your authentic creativity = which equals winning in my book ;)

Until next time Style Lovers,
XO

Hat: Husband’s wardrobe| Sunnies: LA Fashion District| Dress: Eliza J.| Sandals: Sam Edelman| Bag: Vintage

6 comments:

  1. Another Fabulous dress on you my Sista and you ROCK! Did I tell you I want to come play in your closet? No way should you compromise being Yourself. We Love you just because. . .

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    1. Thanks Neti!!! Yes, we have to do a closet party one of these days, LOL!!! Now if only we could come up with a way to do it electronically ;) Thanks for the love, I feel and and reciprocate it!!!
      XO

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  2. BOOM! I love it. You were meant to stand out from the crowd anyway. :-) Those shoes were a major distraction as I was reading though. Gorgeous, indeed.

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    1. Amen Quita, amen!!! LOL, thank you!

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  3. Love this look and the shoes are everything! Keep them coming you give me much needed style inspiration. I was very happy to find your blog because our bodies are similar in shape and I am like look how cute it looks on her, I can wear that too!!!

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    1. Hey now, I love to hear that!!! I find that our body type can rock almost anything, as long as we feel comfortable in it and accessorize it authentically :) I am so happy that you found me Meka, and would love to see your style too!

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