Thursday, October 8, 2015

Square One

Hey Style Lovers <-----> heyyyyy!!! It’s been a while,  how have you been?! I’ve been doing well! You’ve most certainly been on my mind, YES - my readers! As you may know, I’ve always periodically taken breaks from social media, and or fashion blogging because down time gives me the necessary space to recharge myself (read more here). However, this Summer I noticed that my break intervals became longer and more frequent. Why? I had to brainstorm to find the answer. Is it simply because my life schedule is full? No, because my life schedule has always been full. So why had I begun to feel a sense of dread, even at times disgust, whenever I thought about sitting down to actually blog a look that I wore? It took some time, but the answer finally became apparent to me. 
Perception
It takes quite a bit of work to write, edit, publish, and promote one blog post, especially when you consider how many social media platforms there are. Many bloggers use a variety of platforms to engage with more readers. My main platforms aside from this blog are Instagram, Facebook, and Tumblr (although I am also on Twitter, Google + and Pinterest). In the community of fashion blogging, the current general perception seems to lend itself towards the idea of working one’s way into becoming a full-time paid and or endorsed fashion blogger and or model. 
To say that setting that objective as your own - is a challenge, is the understatement of the year. Consider that this (fashion/blogging regular and plus size) is an industry where literally tens of thousands of people are seeking one common goal- to be The OneThe One who all fashion brands (or otherwise) want to work with… The One who all fashion related magazines want to feature… The One who makes itThe One who turns his or her lobby turn into a lucrative career, yes --> to be The One who is on top.
Realizations
Blogging for me began as a hobby. Sure, I thought it might be fun to work with a brand here and there; I had no intentions of marketing for any company/brand for free! LOL! However, focusing on trying to obtain partnerships with brands began to have me feeling some sort of way. Again, I had to think about why. The answer reached the surface. Simply put: I don’t want to “make it” as a fulltime blogger/model/socialite or any of the like. I do not aspire to be “The One”. My beliefs, morals, and priorities are non-negotiable and uncompromisable. I want to blog, on my own terms, in my own way.
Not only am I an appreciative introvert (read more here) BUT I’m truly and genuinely happy with my life as it stands right now: in this very moment :) My hope for the future, my genuine circle of friends, my close family, my long-term personal goals (which have nothing to do with fashion), and my career! I’m grateful to have a comfortable place to live in, a bed to sleep in each night, a variety of foods to choose from for each and every meal that I eat, and in my city: transportation! When I bring myself back to center, shifting out all of the noise, I am able to truly focus on what’s important to ME as an individual/woman, what my intentions are in blogging (read why I started here), and what aspiration is appropriate for me as the whole person. Irregardless of the cut throat ambition, fakery, dishonesty, and cliques present within the fashion blogging industry, my purpose remains the same: Blogging is for me a recreational hobby, I am decidedly different, and I will continue to do ME! 
I am so appreciative of you, my readers! I hope that something you see and or read today will inspire you!

Dress: Eliza J. | Statement necklace: JCPenney | Pumps: Victoria’s Secret | Tote: Dooney & Bourke

16 comments:

  1. You always inspire me to wear outfits I never thought of and I love that. You are my Sista and we often think alike. I blog for the cheap therapy I get and love to see Ladies like you "Living & Loving", I do not want to be the ONE, just Me. Keep on doing YOU my dear and show us the beauty that is Joi. . .Much Luv!

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    1. Thank you Ms. Neti! I love how authentic your writing style is, and your pizazz for LIFE is phenomenal!!
      XO

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  2. Lovely dress! Love the colors you incorporated too. Lovely!

    ~Whitney
    www.whitneynicjames.com

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  3. Lovely look -- be individual about it -- after all, who can be you better than you?

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    1. I concur with that Robin no one can do you better than YOU, - thanks Love!!

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  4. Literally yesterday I was wondering what had happened to you and why you hadn't posted in so long. Not only are you doing ok, you look fabulous (LOVE your bob!) but your introspection was an interesting read this morning, thank you. As always, I enjoy your look and your writing Miss Joi.

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    1. Thank you so very much! I went for a major haircut, I was ready for something new :) I'm so happy to read that you enjoy my little blog!!!

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  5. To be true to ourselves is the best gift we can give ourselves! Even if it means stepping back from the things we see others chasing and embracing. I love your blog, we have similar body size/shape and your outfit combinations always invigorate and inspire my own fashion choices. Thanks for being you, and sharing it with your readers.

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    1. Oh so very true!!! Thank you for reading my rants & ramblings (LOL), and for appreciating my personal style!!! I feel so happy to know that something that I have done in one way or another inspires YOU!

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  6. I have lurked on your page for months. I love your style. You seem a bit hard to peg down and that's ok...your a Detroit girl and I am a Michigan girl myself so I kind of get it. What I can say is this....keep doing YOU! As long as your authentic to who you are, it will all fall into place. What is your instagram? I would like to follow you there since I JUST signed up.

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    1. Hey there, thank you so much for stopping in and making a comment! I literally laughed out loud when I read your comment, I am hard to peg down!!! Thank you very much for your support and the encouragement towards remaining authentic! My Instagram is @InMyJoi ;) Look forward to seeing over there!

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  7. Hi! I love your outfit! that dress is tooooo cute! :-D
    I have just found your blog, and I agree with what you said....blogging is just a hobby for me also :-) feel free to check out my blog!

    www.thecommonprincess.com

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    1. Hi Princess, thank you very much, the maker is one of my absolute favorites!!!
      XO

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  8. Joi, I love the way you "do you"! Keep on keepin' on girl! I look forward to all of your outfit blogs and pics! Big Ups! Kelly Foster, Las Vegas, NV

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    1. Thank you Kelly!!!I appreciate knowing that you enjoy my posts and actually look forward to them!
      XO

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